Now I am reconstructing my life. I am letting go of many unnecessary things and adding new ways based on rationality.
Recently, I have changed my mindset. Let’s talk about it.
How to break through
Sometimes, we want to discover new opportunities and break through the current tough situation. We want to change, even if we sacrifice stability.
Although we know we have to change our actions, we sometimes don’t know what new things to do.
We often question ourselves, “What can I do?” We try to identify useful skills we have already acquired and discover opportunities with them.
However, it doesn’t work. We are already mobilizing everything we know. In such a situation, it is pointless to seek further knowledge within us. We have to realize what we are not aware of.
One solution is changing the mindset from what you can do to how you can relax more. This perspective might show you where to change. Today, I will explain why.
Two approaches to deciding
We can identify where to change by looking at things from the perspective of relaxation. This mindset works well for those with intense empathy.
To explain why, let’s look at two approaches to deciding on our activities. They are as follows:
- Empathic approach: We seek opportunities from our experiences. We first try to add excitement, then reduce unnecessary things. That makes us maximally active, but it often exhausts us.
- Logical approach: We pursue relaxation and calmness. We first try to reduce unnecessary stress and increase our surplus resources, then try to find opportunities. That makes us maximally peaceful.
These approaches tell us that choosing the latter is effective when we want a peaceful life.
Rationality and surplus resources
Rationality, relaxation, creating changes, and increasing surplus resources are tightly connected. Associating them gives us efficiency.
Efficiency means reducing unnecessary stress. In other words, its goal is relaxation and curiosity rather than strong excitement.
That allows us to adjust the level of stress. We don’t overdo our work. It is pointless to work painfully when we want to live more peacefully. Although it looks lazy from the perspective of excitement, it is an easy life.
That makes us reduce stressful work first rather than increase it. The most stressful thing is the element that wastes our resources the most. In other words, we can multiply our surplus resources if we end it.
We consider such surplus resources as a fundamental abundance. We satisfy other wants with it. It includes helping others, getting excitement, and other empathic satisfactions.
Limiting excessive stress—relaxation—is the most fundamental form of abundance.
Empathy and excitement
On the other hand, empathy, excitement, the meaning of activities, and exhaustion are connected deeply.
There are no limits to emotional desires. The more exciting, the better.
That makes us add emotionally exciting activities first. Then, we try to reduce the boring ones. That is why we always have the maximum amount of activities when we have intense empathy. It is no wonder that we cannot relax.
We consider the amount of emotional energy to be a fundamental abundance. Pursuing extreme excitement makes us ignore other trivial wants.
We rely on imagination to get excited, so we cannot change. We can only imagine what we already know.
The question “What can I do?” is a typical example of relying on imagination.
That is why empathy, excitement, the meaning of activities, and exhaustion have a close relationship.
Conclusion
That is why it is effective to change the mindset from what you can do to how you can relax more.
A rational approach helps us well when we have intense empathy.
This perspective might show you what to change.
Thank you for reading this article. I hope to see you in the next one.
