How to Change Without Rebounding

Today’s article is related to the previous article (this article). I like thinking in waves to change my life. So today, I’ll talk about how to change our lives without rebounding. This way of thinking could reduce the stress of overdoing it.

The essence of wave thinking

As I mentioned above, I like thinking in waves. I call this wave thinking. The essence of wave thinking is as follows:

  • There are two waves: positive and negative waves. We can ride both waves.
  • “Riding a wave” means “we have the motivation or suitable situations to do it easily.”
  • After doing some positive activities, we also do some negative activities.
  • If we want energy to be active, we amplify both waves little by little.
  • If we want to change our situations, we change the balance.

For example, if we want to be more active, we can increase positive and negative activities gradually. In the beginning, some minor work could be positive, such as organizing our tables or putting our garbage in the trash box. We do these positive things until we feel tired.

After we feel tired, we do a negative activity. Perhaps we will take a rest. And we amplify both positive and negative activities gradually. That will give us the energy to be more active without stress.

Fear of riding the negative wave

But sometimes, we might be afraid of riding the negative waves because it seems to waste our efforts. For example, let’s assume that we want to lose weight. In such a situation, a statement like “eat food after exercise” seems wasteful.

But that is not a beautiful wave in many cases. That would just be rebounding.

Usually, a wave has similar phases. Positive and negative waves are almost similar in shape, like below:

On the other hand, rebounding shapes an unnatural form of wave, like below:

Forming beautiful wave shapes

Making beautiful shapes is one of the keys to wave thinking. If we have an exercise phase for a month, we will have a new eating phase for a month. It is neither eating a lot in a day right after exercise nor eating a lot during the exercise phase.

In other words, “negative wave” means “making a new lifestyle.” It doesn’t mean that we replace the lost things as they were.

When we exercise, we concentrate on it. Perhaps we can do it gradually, like a wave. But after a while, we will feel a limit to reducing our weight only with exercise. Or we will have difficulties continuing it. Then we gradually focus on the opposite and negative wave, such as eating or resting.

We often tend to reject the negative side when we want to change something like our weight. But riding the negative wave changes our lives. It tells us to eat or rest better if we have a direction in life. Positive and negative waves both help us change.

Of course, we have several waves at the same time, such as long-term, middle-term, and short-term waves. We need to think about them separately.


So if we use wave thinking, we can change without rebounding. The more beautiful waves we have, the less stress we will have.

If we understand this logic, we might be able to change our lives easier.

Thank you for reading this article. I hope to see you at the next one.