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In the previous article (this article), I explained that there are not so many kinds of big problems in life. Today, I will introduce how to predict major difficulties in life.
How to avoid big problems in life
Sometimes, we want to avoid major problems in life. They are the problems we cannot solve if we once miss the opportunities.
If it is something we can get it back later, we don’t have to worry so much about it. We can prioritize more important things. However, some are a one-time opportunity. We cannot try again.
For example, money is necessary throughout life, but we might be able to get it back later. On the other hand, we cannot try again things that we can do only at our current age. We cannot rewind time.
That is why we want to know what the major problems are. Knowing them makes our lives easier because we can avoid fatal troubles. The rest is a matter of priorities. We can take back the minor problems later. That allows us to distinguish which trouble is critical and which is trivial.
However, we often don’t know about them. That makes us keep struggling with superficial, trivial troubles and stagnate.
Today, I will introduce how to predict major problems in life. This knowledge might make our lives easier.
The regrets of the elderly
Fortunately, there are not so many kinds of big problems in life, as I said above.
We can find them in the regrets in the lives of the elderly. Try searching the keyword ‘regrets in life.’ That will teach us what we cannot take back again.
Perhaps you can predict them more or less without checking them out. Dishonesty with ourselves often makes us regret it. We cannot be happy without following our values, especially if we have individuality.
On the other hand, if we are honest and sincere with ourselves, we never regret it. We can accept the results, even if they end up failing or breaking up with someone.
Contradictory regrets
However, there is no simple means to avoid regrets because we have personalities and inclinations. We have to adjust our attitudes toward ourselves.
If you look at the list of others’ regrets in their lives, you will soon find contradictory ones.
For example, some might regret not saving enough, but some might regret sticking to work for money. Some might lament that they were too worried and didn’t try to take opportunities, but some might repent that they were too unconcerned about their future and not preparing for it. Some might be disappointed that they ignored their will, but some might regret not helping others to support their dreams.
We have to look into our hearts and balance out of honesty.
Being honest with our mental duality
Although we have to be honest with our minds, they are not simple. The answer from our minds is not always based on one value. In other words, there is no stable honesty. Honesty is not a single solid value.
We have at least two contradictory aspects in our minds. I call such a mental complexity mental duality. This awareness gives us balance and freedom from suppressed emotions.
For example, although we want to challenge opportunities, we usually fear risks at the same time. That is the mental duality. One side of our minds insists on going, but the other side claims to stop.
In this situation, the direction in life affects us. If we are heading in the direction that suits us, the mental duality cooperates. We can proceed boldly and warily. Boldness and vigilance don’t contradict each other.
However, on the other hand, if an inferiority complex drives us to go in a direction that doesn’t suit us, the mental duality conflicts. Boldness and vigilance cause stagnation.
In this case, we tend to try to eliminate one side. Ignoring our one honest side allows us to proceed. That creates our regret later. If we ignore the risk, we will encounter unexpected risks and suffer fatal troubles. If we keep worrying and never move, we will regret not trying new things.
Living with mental contradiction
In many cases, heading toward independence will be the better direction if we are empathic and creative.
We don’t have to clear all of our concerns to challenge new things. We can live with feeling contradiction inside us That is the honesty and sincerity with ourselves.
Although it would make us uneasy at first, it will give us a good life without regrets. Knowing ourselves brings comfort to our lives.
Conclusion
We can find the major life problems through the regrets in the lives of the elderly.
We have mental duality. Although it is often contradictory, if we are honest and sincere with our duality, we never regret it.
This knowledge might make our lives easier.
Thank you for reading this article. I hope to see you in the next one.
