Recently, I have talked about the mental system of empathy and logical sense. After I realized it, my emotions have become more stable. I enjoy this emotional stability, although I am considering where to find the appropriate balance.
Today, I will introduce this fresh feeling.
What is the stable emotional state?
Sometimes, we want to know a mental state of controlling our emotions.
There are often misunderstandings about this state. Typical examples are a feeling that everything in the past had meaning and all past pains become gratitude and joy.
Those experiences are not in a state of controlling emotions. It means we cannot control the current gratitude and joy. These intense positive emotions are interfering with remembering past pains. Once our situations get worse, we will feel everything is negative. Nothing is resolved.
That is why we want to know the correct state of controlling our emotions.
However, we sometimes don’t have such an opportunity.
Today, I will introduce it through my recent experience. Fortunately, my emotions became stable by cultivating my logical strength. This might help you identify what the true stability is.
The idea of two subordinates
The stable emotional state can be stated as follows: quick appearance, quick disappearance.
To explain it, let’s look at how our empathy and logical sense work.
If we train our logical judging ability, empathy—a mental function to detect and amplify emotions—begins to trust logic. Empathy feels relief at the point where it hands its emotions to logical sense.
Assume we have two subordinates: Miss Empathy and Mr. Logic. They are companions but also rivals. We can say that they are two ministers who manage our minds. Both function well by being equal.
Empathy detects an emotion and hands it to logic. Although empathy can always act ahead of him and order him, she has to leave the judging and process to him. On the other hand, although logical sense cannot order her, he can deal with the emotion freely.
If the power of both is balanced, empathy feels relief at the point where it hands its emotions to him. Imagine this situation: he says with a smile and confidence, “I surely received this emotion. Leave the rest to me!”
Such confidence reassures her and calms her.
The troubles caused by imbalance
However, when the power of both sides is biased, it will not function well.
If logical sense doesn’t have power and confidence, Miss Empathy tries to convey more and more strongly to him until she feels at ease from his attitude. She says, “This is an important job for our lord! Why are you not trying to do anything?”
She amplifies the emotion endlessly until Mr. Logic works enough. Then, she tries to work harder in his place. She always wishes to work for her lord—us.
That causes our unstoppable emotions.
On the other hand, if Mr. Logic’s strength is too much, empathy cannot order him. She hesitates to hand her emotions to him.
That makes us emotionless. We will feel dull and indifferent toward everything. Perhaps we don’t have to worry about this for a while.
Quick appearance, quick disappearance
If we have a balanced state, we feel emotions clearly but don’t drag it out later. This concept would describe it appropriately: ‘Quick appearance, quick disappearance.’ It is neither uncontrollable nor emotionless.
Let’s look at my recent experience. This morning, I felt a strange emotion. I felt depressed, even though I should be pleased to have found a new logic.
Being confused after a while, I remembered that I could name it. Since it was a fresh emotion I had not experienced recently, I called it ‘gloomy.’ Of course, that feeling is still within me at that point.
I tried to understand the meaning of that emotion. First, I intentionally thought that thinking of it was a waste of time. Then, my subconsciousness answered, ‘No, it is a vague, groundless anxiety.’
Logical conclusion
Finally, my logical sense guessed, “Probably I wanted to find the next future risk. It allows me to use my empathy. In other words, I am forcing myself to create a worry.”
It concluded, “I am now resting my empathy, so I have extra empathic energy. That made the empathy try to find a new anxiety. It is unreasonable to find new troubles only to use empathy. Problems always come, even when I don’t want them. I don’t have to go looking for them now.”
“If I let the empathy rest more, its strength will decrease. For now, that would be the appropriate treatment.”
The judgment that calmed empathy
The moment I realized this reasoning, the gloomy emotions completely disappeared.
My logical sense made a reliable judgment. That calmed empathy down.
Of course, we can also decide to indulge in the emotion. We can enjoy not only fun but also sadness. When we want to cry, we shed tears until we are satisfied.
However, that is based on the logical sense’s judgment. Empathy doesn’t amplify the emotion recklessly. It is under our control.
Conclusion
That would be the correct state of controlling over emotions.
The concept, ‘quick appearance, quick disappearance,’ would describe it appropriately. We feel emotions clearly but don’t drag it out later.
This might help you identify what the true mental stability is.
Thank you for reading this article. I hope to see you in the next one.
