Recently, I have finally resolved my mental confusion about my parents. Rationality allowed me to discern the logic. One example is the tendency to seek consistency. Let’s talk about it.
How to resolve our mental confusion
Sometimes, we want to resolve our mental confusion.
Even though it seems we act based on our will, that is often not the case. One example is an emotional reaction. Past experiences affect us in similar situations, even if our circumstances have changed.
That confuses us. We don’t understand our motives for doing so, even ourselves. The more logical we are, the more we seek the reason and try to align our actions when encountering such emotional reactions. That makes us unsure of our values.
That is why we want to resolve our mental confusion.
However, we sometimes don’t know how to solve it.
Rationality will help you. As one example, I will introduce why parents’ inconsistency forces logical children to pursue strict consistency. This logic might help you understand yourself and resolve your mental confusion.
Why we seek strict consistency
Parents’ irrationality drives logical children to seek strict consistency.
This is because we think we should not become irrational people, like our parents.
If we are logical, only reason convinces us. In other words, actions without reasons or standards bother us. We cannot understand the opponents’ motives. That makes it difficult for us to get along with them.
The unknown scares us and stresses us. We cannot stop worrying endlessly.
We hate those who make us suffer. We never want to become like them.
That makes us pursue strict consistency. That is the cause of our bias toward one aspect of our values, even though we have to satisfy our duality.
For example, we are often obsessed with only social success, even if we sacrifice our self-satisfaction. That exhausts us and makes us want to live a peaceful life.
Upgrading our rationality
Being aware of rationality solves this confusion. To be precise, upgrade your rationality to the next level. That allows you to give up thinking logically and eliminate your fear of the opponents.
In other words, we have to know that some things cannot be understood by logic.
One typical example is politics. For example, when the Russia-Ukraine war broke out several years ago, many Western people claimed as follows:
“For human peace, destroy Russia!”
“Sanction Russian companies to save people’s lives!”
Perhaps you felt discomfort with that logic if you are logical. If we consider the peace of humanity, we should include the Russian people, their companies, and their lives. In other words, these claimants don’t think of Russians as human. That irrationality stresses us.
However, if we upgrade our rationality and understand the existence of irrationality, we can let go of thinking logically. We can recognize that their logic is broken. There is no reasonable answer. If we seek consistency, we will only continue to suffer.
We have to know when to stop logical thinking. That frees us from the stress of endless thinking. It is a part of logical thinking.
Understanding our parents is the same. Updating our rationality reduces the stress from our parents.
Conclusion
That is why parents’ inconsistency forces logical children to pursue strict consistency.
Being aware of rationality solves this confusion. To be precise, upgrading your rationality resolves your fear of the opponents.
This logic might help you understand yourself and resolve your mental confusion.
Thank you for reading this article. I hope to see you in the next one.
