In the previous article (this article), I introduced how to get energy and hope in life. I named it the law of pudding.
Based on it, let’s talk about how to find our curiosity.
How to find your curiosity
Sometimes, we want to find something new and fun. Something we can get passionate about makes our lives enjoyable.
However, we sometimes don’t know what we want to do. We cannot find our curiosity. Even if we try trendy hobbies, nothing interests us.
That is why we want to find our curiosity.
Rational thinking would solve it. Today, I will explain the logic of why rationality gives us curiosity with an example of pudding.
The 2nd law of pudding
We become curious only after fulfilling something we are truly interested in. In other words, ignoring what interests you prevents the next curiosity from appearing.
To make it easier to understand, let’s look at an example of pudding. I call it the second law of pudding.
Suppose we love pudding. We were deeply impressed after eating it once. It was sweet and soft. It was the most delicious dessert we have ever had. We want to taste it again.
However, there is a problem. Our surroundings don’t appreciate it. They prefer cakes and look down on pudding as a childish food.
In this situation, there are two styles, as follows:
- Empathic way: We avoid pudding and follow the evaluations of our surroundings. We try to forget about our interest in pudding.
- Logical way: We try the next pudding immediately.
Empathic people tend to choose the former. However, if you want to find your new curiosity, choose the latter—logical way.
Evaluation of others vs. rationality
Rationally speaking, there is no point in following the evaluations of others just because they say so.
In other words, we must determine whether there is rationality.
For example, they might say that the pudding in this area contains toxins. Several investigations warn of that risk, and we found it reasonable. It makes sense for us to avoid the pudding.
However, if there is no reasonable justification for their insistence, it is absurd to follow such an evaluation. We can find that it is irrational not to enjoy pudding just because it is childish.
There is no benefit in ignoring the pudding in terms of curiosity. Interest means the possibility of something that improves our lives. Although we don’t know yet what element of pudding satisfies us, it should have potential. Without experiencing it and investigating, we cannot judge it.
Of course, the pudding might not fit our reality. The ingredients of eggs and milk might be too expensive in our area. Our sense of taste might have changed since we ate it in the past. The pudding may not satisfy us.
However, by knowing that reality, we can lose interest in pudding and move on to the next interest. Although it might be a failure, it allows us to proceed. It is a beneficial failure called feedback.
On the other hand, if we try to forget the pudding, we cannot be interested in anything else. We cannot forget the pudding somewhere in our hearts. That causes our desire for curiosity.
Facing your unreasonable negativity
You can find your true interest through your unreasonable negativity.
If you want to remember your interests, focus on things you hate or feel negative about.
In a rational state, we have neither hatred nor negative emotions. For example, even if we have an enemy, we can guess that the other party also has reasons for their actions. That allows us to make calm and valid judgments.
On the other hand, if we are in an empathic state, emotions drive us. A typical example is hate. It allows us to distance ourselves from that possibility, although there is no need to hate originally.
That is why we can have love and hate at the same time. Interest and empathy cause that mental state.
Continuing rational judgment makes you begin to realize your interests gradually. You will come to realize your unreasonable behaviors.
For example, you might notice that you unconsciously avoid the street with the pastry shop and take a long way around. You might be boasting about the expensive cake you bought yesterday. Both are irrational because we don’t have to do so. There is no need for detours and boasting in our happiness.
You have to neither love it nor understand each other. You can stay away from that. Just judge rationally if there is reasonableness. That rationality allows you to try the pudding. Then, after having feedback, you will love it or lose interest. That is when you can be free from your hatred. That makes you ready to find the next fun.
That is why focusing on unreasonable negativity leads you to your true interest.
Conclusion
That is the second law of pudding: we become curious only after fulfilling something we are truly interested in.
In other words, ignoring what interests you prevents the next curiosity from appearing.
Judge rationally if your behaviors are reasonable. That rationality will lead you to try the pudding.
This logic might give you curiosity.
Thank you for reading this article. I hope to see you in the next one.
