Finally, I concluded it! Although I have talked about our duality and how to be independent for a long time, I finally reached one of the big milestones. Today, I will talk about it.
My problem in life
I had a problem in my life. It was that I didn’t know how to live well. Many stressful things exhausted me.
Even though many people could do it, I could not live the same way as them. In the beginning, I thought it was because my efforts were insufficient.
However, as I grew up, I realized that my unique individuality caused it. My interest was different from others’. What I valued was worthless to others, except for a few people of the same kind, such as this blog’s readers or creative companions.
They were all struggling with their way of life. That told me that I cannot live in a normal way.
That made me seek my own way. In other words, I wanted to find my happiness.
The interesting aspects of their way of life
I noticed something interesting when I looked at the nature of myself and my kind. Although they, including me, were struggling with how to deal with their qualities, they also enjoyed them at the same time.
For example, they could not work as an employee. They had to rely on themselves. However, at the same time, they could willingly take responsibility for their actions. They were vigorous when they could challenge their goals freely. They enthusiastically created their products and were satisfied with them. Sometimes they cried, but sometimes they laughed.
This made me think about a way of life different from common sense.
Contradictions in the world
There were so many contradictions and confusion if we looked at their lives. Usually, people want only to laugh and don’t want to cry. They think crying is unhappiness. However, I felt that both their discouragement and pleasure are part of happiness. They were lively, even when they failed and cried.
Of course, they also sometimes become spiritless, which is the opposite of liveliness. However, I also felt that was their charm.
These phenomena were contradictory. However, they enjoyed their life with their inconsistency, and it was reality. The common sense of general misfortune didn’t apply to them.
This impressed me. “I might have a big misunderstanding about happiness,” I felt.
Seeking how to live well
I found that individuality was not only a negative thing but also a clue to happiness.
It was fun to find out how to use my individuality amidst many struggles. Through many starts and stops of activities, I gradually realized I enjoy creating new conceptual logic. The logic directly improved my life. My life gradually became easier.
The concept of the dualistic problem-solving method I recently created was one of the best concepts that made me feel at ease.
It tells us we don’t have to stick to identifying the cause. Imagine the state in which we can be free from asking ‘Why?’ and ‘What should I do?’ They had always been my source of suffering.
We can balance our two contradictory aspects instead of finding the cause. This way is effective in finding a reasonable answer to an abstract question, such as a way of life or happiness.
Lives with contradictions
To think of our lives without prejudice of common sense, there are many contradictions in the world. In other words, it is natural. Lives with no conflicts are unnatural.
Changing our perspective allows us to see the world differently.
With this perspective, we will soon notice that many things cannot be separated, even though they are contradictory.
Examples of inconsistency
Some assert, ‘Protect lives!’ while they eat lives as food every day. Even though a single grain is life, they insist they are allies of life.
Some criticize the enemy country that invaded their land, ‘Get out of our land! This place is ours!’ while living in the land that their ancestors invaded and captured. Even though they deny invasion, they are accepting it at the same time.
Some say, ‘I cannot forgive the murderer,’ while the murderer says, ‘I killed him because I could not forgive him.’ They are criticizing others who have the same motives as themselves.
We are also the same. Although we want independence, it means finding another affordable dependency.
Despite those inconsistencies, they cannot be separated.
The definition of life
Perhaps life is defined as something contradictory. Non-life is always consistent. That may be a quality of life.
In other words, dealing with ourselves as a non-life makes us suffer. Trying to show only one side means treating ourselves as a non-life.
That may be why we suffer when we stick to one aspect of our values.
In such a case, the dualistic problem-solving method would help. We can treat ourselves as a life and improve our lives.
I still don’t know what life is and what the meaning of life is. However, that may be one part of the logic that allows us to step forward to happiness.
Conclusion
Anyway, I enjoyed creating this logic.
It is always fun for me to find a new concept that makes my life better. This time was also the case, although I struggled with the logic every day.
I don’t know what the next topic will be, but let’s walk toward the future while embracing contradictions.
Thank you for reading this article. I hope to see you in the next one.
