In the previous article (this article), I mentioned the face types based on our personalities. And I want to add a little more. It is about why we can use our first impressions.
Can we trust their appearances?
As I mentioned in the previous article, we sometimes have a first impression when we meet someone. At that time, we can sometimes feel their personality through their appearances, especially their faces, even though we meet them for the first time. And that impression is often correct.
We often judge people by their first impressions. Perhaps we use them because they are reliable.
But on the other hand, appearances are sometimes deceiving. You might also experience both. Someone looked kind, but he was not. Or, someone looked coldhearted, but she was warm.
Can we trust our first impressions? Why does their appearance deceive us?
So today, I will talk about why we can use our first impressions, and sometimes they betray us. This knowledge might help us understand our personalities.
The reason for using first impressions
First, the reason we use our first impressions. That is simple. It is because it is effective in our social activities.
Personatity means difference. In our social activities, the difference gives us efficiency. For example, people with more muscle can do work that requires strength. People with more carefulness can do work that requires carefulness. So we can help each other with our strengths and make our lives efficient in our society.
In such a society, when we ask someone for help, it is more efficient to judge their personalities immediately. For example, if we want care with kindness, it is better to ask someone kind. That gives us more efficiency.
Perhaps the more essential it is in our society, the more we can see it. For example, judging males or females may have been one of the key differences in human social activities. Perhaps that is the reason for our differences in bodies.
And it is not surprising that other essential personarities appear on our faces. So, we use our first impressions because it gives us a benefit, in my opinion.
The betraying side of appearance
But sometimes, appearance betrays us because our society has become complex. We sometimes try to survive in one place by mimicking rather than moving to another place.
The most valuable personality in a stable society may be the people that I call the “traditional empathic people.”
The four types of characteristics
I introduce the personality classification that I like here.
I classify the characteristics of people into four types, as follows:
- Extroverts: People with less empathy. They like following traditional ways rather than finding new, better ways.
- Innovators: People with less empathy. They like finding new, better ways rather than following traditional ways.
- Traditional empaths: People with high empathy. They like following traditional ways rather than finding new, better ways.
- Innovative empaths: People with high empathy. They like finding new, better ways rather than following traditional ways.
Valuable traditional empaths
In a stable society, the upper-left, highly empathetic people who can follow social traditions (traditional empaths) are often the most valuable. It is because they can harmonize with society. They are kind, calm, tender, willing to help weak people, and consider their surroundings. So many people in a stable society want such people.
In such a situation, other types of people, especially extroverts, pretend to be such people to have an advantage. Perhaps that is the origin of the makeup of their eyes, as I mentioned in the previous article. Traditional empaths tend to have eyes with height. So people, especially extroverted women, began to make up their eyes with eyeliner or eyelashes.
Perhaps that is one of the depressive examples of “looks are deceiving.”
The glad sides of “looks are deceiving”
By the way, the upper-right, highly empathetic, and innovative people (innovative empaths) have thinner eyes. That is the opposite, even though they also have high empathy.
In other words, they genetically hide and deceive their empathic characteristics. Why have they needed to hide it?
Perhaps this is because they cannot bear to help others individually. Innovative and creative people have high sensitivity. But it also means they get stressed easily. And helping others individually tends to be stressful. So, they have had to hide their empathic characteristics to concentrate on their innovation.
So, people are often surprised when these innovative empaths show their kindness. Perhaps that is one of the glad sides of “looks are deceiving.”
Conclusion
So, we can use our first impressions because it gives us a benefit. But at the same time, we need to be careful about appearances because they could deceive us.
This knowledge might help us understand our personalities.
Thank you for reading this article. I hope to see you at the next one.
