I gradually understand the mental system of not only empathic and logical people but also extroverts, who are less empathic and less logical. Let’s discuss it.
Why do they behave violently?
Sometimes, we want to comprehend the reason for others’ strange behaviors.
One example is the extroverts’ mental complex. They often gather in groups, intimidate others, and use violence against those they dislike. They are mentally unstable, and it is difficult to anticipate when they might become aggressive. They are people who would become parts of gangs or the mafia. We probably don’t want to get close to them.
That contrasts with empathic, logical people with mental confusion, who tend to blame themselves and push themselves to the limit.
That is why we want to know the mental system.
I recently realized that the mechanism of mental confusion is almost the same: a lack of reason causes a destructive impulse. Today, I will explain it. This logic may help you comprehend extroverts’ minds.
The mechanism of mental confusion
An absence of reason causes mental confusion, regardless of whether someone is extroverted or introverted. The personality determines the fundamental responses to the mental complexity: extroverts choose to change others, while introverts prioritize correcting their own attitudes.
Reason is the standard of judgment. It requires an orderly and rule-based environment to develop. In other words, as we decide various things based on certain criteria, reason cultivates.
To make it easier to understand, let’s compare an environment where order and rules are in place with one where they are not.
The case of growing up in an inconsistent environment
Let’s say a boy was growing up in an environment with no consistency.
One day, when he was playing, his parents suddenly got angry. He guessed that they punished him because he was playing around, so he decided not to play when his parents were around. He learned from his experience.
However, whether he was studying or being quiet, his parents took out their anger on him. Yet, they sometimes cheerfully encourage him by saying, ‘Good boy, go play; we are merciful parents.’ However, when he came home, they suddenly became enraged and asked, ‘Why have you been playing all this time without helping us?’
He could not obtain a clear distinction of what changes his parents’ moods. Whether he was logical or not, the lack of rules and standards confused him.
As he grew up, he learned a lesson from experience: if he wants to push his desires through, he should become angry, like his parents. He began to feel that he could not predict others’ feelings, no matter how he tried. In that case, he guessed he would be happier by focusing on fulfilling his desires to the fullest while ignoring others’ emotions. Anyone who got in the way was his enemy. He could eliminate it by force. That became his way of life.
He changed his attitude based on his mood, like his parents. Naturally, people disliked him. That made him more dominating toward others. His only way to control others was to intimidate them with his powers, not only through aggressive attitudes but also through social status, money, and other social resources.
That is how mental confusion creates selfishness. A lack of clear criteria for judgment prevents his reason from developing.
A consistent environment
On the other hand, suppose a girl was growing up in an environment with consistent rules and criteria.
For example, one day, she went out to play without finishing her homework. Her parents got angry and punished her. Although it might be a bit strict discipline, her parents continued to allow her to play as long as she did her homework. Although there were various other rules, they didn’t change their criteria to get angry.
As she grew up, she clearly understood what would make her parents scold her. Although she had complaints about the strictness, she didn’t experience her emotional turmoil with her parents. Although she sometimes deliberately went beyond the point of getting scolded, after being found and scolded, she felt, ‘I expected this.’
She was not afraid of being angry. To be precise, she never continued to blame herself, even after being scolded. She knew what she had done wrong. That made her confident in her judgment, at least in the area her parents had disciplined.
Naturally, she became a person who is easy to get along with. She also became consistent. Her clear criteria made it clear to those around her what would anger her.
Someone around her would sometimes deliberately do things to make her angry, but when she got angry, that person would think, ‘I expected it,’ and stop.
She could become angry for principled reasons, so many people without mental confusion liked her.
She understood that people respect those who have standards, not those who never show anger.
Conclusion
That is the mechanism of mental confusion.
An absence of reason causes mental confusion, regardless of whether someone is extroverted or introverted.
Reason requires an orderly and rule-based environment to develop.
This logic may help you comprehend extroverts’ minds.
Thank you for reading this article. I hope to see you in the next one.
