A rational way of living has improved my life rapidly. One of them was being reconciled with my parents. Let’s talk about it.
How to resolve persistent worries
Sometimes, we want to resolve lingering concerns.
These worries are things we have not clearly decided how to deal with. We have not given up on them, but it seems we cannot resolve them soon. That ambiguous state bothers us.
In my case, it was the relationship with my parents. I wanted to get along with them, but their behavior stressed me, and I could not solve the problem. Although I had given up, I could not completely give up on it. That was my bottled-up feelings.
Such feelings make us want to resolve them.
A solution would be to judge rationally. Fortunately and unexpectedly, I was reconciled with my parents recently. Today, I will explain why rationality can solve the problems of lingering concerns.
Why rationality resolves persistent concerns
A lingering concern is an unfulfilled interest. It is one form of curiosity.
Rationality tells us how to approach our interests. That is why judging rationally solves persistent worries.
To make it easier to understand, let’s look at the case of reconciliation with my parents.
The following elements are all closely related:
- Rationality
- Curiosity
- Waiting until it is resolved
- Knowing that we are ignorant about the results
- Choosing the least selected option
My case
In my case, I had not been in touch with my parents for many years. However, I had to exchange messages with them to live in the current apartment. The contract required a contact in case something happens to me.
That triggered me to continue a little message exchange with them. That was due to my curiosity. I wanted to try choosing an option that I have never chosen before. I felt safe since I migrated far from them.
At the same time, I started to judge rationally more and more.
Through that communication, I realized why they became a source of stress for me. They were only irrational. My rationality taught me that.
That awareness freed me from most of the stress. This is because I had never understood what had been stressing me out. The incomprehensible confused me, and it fueled my fear. We are afraid of the unknown. That is why I struggled with my parents.
They were just irrational. It is different from a lack of affection. They didn’t want to deny me; they could only express their love unreasonably.
That cleared my confusion. Naturally, most of my stress disappeared.
Changes that have begun
That stimulated my curiosity. I started taking a different approach than before.
I revealed the condition of my weak liver. They didn’t know it. I thought their reactions would stress me. However, they responded differently from my anticipation. I could sense their love. That interested me.
That made me choose other options more and more that were different from before.
The change has begun. I have started to receive various supports from them. They were growing vegetables, so I started receiving vegetables through a courier service. That reduced my frequency of gathering edible wild plants. I also received pastries, such as pudding.
These interactions impressed me. Rationally speaking, if they don’t like me, they don’t have to do so. That reassured me and released me from my stress.
Finally, that made me decide to spend some time temporarily at my parents’ home. If there is less stress than I thought, I can live with them permanently. That will reduce my living expenses. It is beneficial.
In the case that it is stressful, I can continue living in the current apartment. It is worth trying.
Knowing our ignorance of the outcome
I don’t know the results. However, there is an opportunity for large profits with a small risk. Naturally, that made me want to try.
I don’t have to worry about the result. This is because I cannot anticipate it. So far, I have gotten results that were different from my predictions many times. That freed me from anxiety about the outcome.
Something can change, thanks to my unreliable predictions.
It also told me I don’t have to be impatient. When I am in a hurry, I expect that speed becomes profit. However, it can be wrong. I cannot count on my anticipations. That awareness allows me to wait calmly.
That creates changes.
That is why the following things are all closely related: rationality, curiosity, waiting until it is resolved, knowing that we are ignorant about the results, and choosing the least taken option.
Once the change begins, your life will change dramatically. Rationality has such power. Although I don’t know what the future holds, I am currently experiencing such a change.
I realized that rationality resolved my lingering concern about my parents.
Conclusion
That is why rationality can solve the problems of lingering concerns.
A lingering concern is an unfulfilled curiosity. It is one form of interest.
Rationality tells us how to approach our interests.
This experience might help you solve your persistent worries.
Thank you for reading this article. I hope to see you in the next one.
