I started living with my parents last week and decided to live with them permanently yesterday.
Although I have wanted something since childhood, I could not verbalize it. Now I understand that it is relaxation, and it is being fulfilled. Let’s talk about it.
The meaning of letting go of success
Sometimes, we want to know why some people can let go of social success.
I know a few people were doing that. They were different from other major spiritualists. They live modestly, quietly, and fulfilled. They don’t advertise their work, even if they create excellent products for a certain kind of people.
They don’t show how much they have influenced and contributed to people. They don’t compare us to others, so they don’t stimulate our inferiority complex. We can be comfortable with them. They were warm-hearted, philosophical people without titles.
I have liked them more than famous spiritualists. In other words, I wanted to live like them.
However, the number of people like them is too small, and they are always living as hermits, so we cannot deeply engage with their mindsets. That has made me want to know their sense of living, but I forgot that desire as I was exposed to a lot of information for the masses.
Unexpectedly, a rational life reminded me of that. It taught me that my current mental state was their sense of living. Today, I will talk about it.
Why they are freed from success
Why they attracted me was simple. They were empathic, logical, and relaxed. The difference between them and me was calmness. I also have an empathic and logical personality but was not peaceful.
In other words, what I wanted was relaxation. Although I sought social success for a long time, it was pointless. What I wanted from success was a peaceful mind like theirs.
Then, rationality gave it to me. That made me no longer need social success.
That was why I remembered their ways of life.
Two ways to calm down
The way to calm down depends on one’s personality, as follows:
- Not logical people (people with sociality) can relax by being the same as others.
- Logical people can relax by being rational.
For example, I heard from one of this blog’s readers that this blog calmed his mind. That would be because I have explained our mental system logically.
Unreasonable spiritual teachings don’t calm us. Examples are as follows:
- You were born to be happy.
- Your current suffering will eventually turn into joy.
- You are valuable just for being alive.
- You are allowed to fail.
Although these words comfort us superficially in the short term, they will not save us fundamentally. This is because we cannot obtain the most important thing: the relaxation of rationality.
What we want is why.
Taking responsibility for ourselves
In other words, those words are irresponsible. Logical people want to take responsibility, which includes why and how. An absence of responsibility makes us feel that they are lying or not facing reality. We cannot believe things just because an authority said so. We need a solid backbone rather than a superficial answer.
It means that we sometimes can trust someone who honestly says, ‘I don’t know it.’ For example, I am uncertain whether we were born to be happy. Our current struggle could be in vain. I don’t know if there is value in living. I am also unaware of what failure is.
Although I don’t know many things, being aware of our ignorance is one reason that gives us rationality. We can try something small because we don’t know enough. We avoid judging other people because we know we are in different circumstances from them.
That logic makes us peaceful.
That would be the attractiveness of people with empathy and logical sense who are relaxed.
Conclusion
That would be the sense of letting go of social success.
If we are empathic and logical, relaxation frees us from the need to stick to accomplishments.
This awareness might give us satisfaction in life more rationally.
Thank you for reading this article. I hope to see you in the next one.
