Recently, I have talked about empathy and logical sense. Although I concluded it in the previous article, I wanted to explain several short topics but didn’t have an opportunity to do so. Today, I will introduce them.
How we feel when we balance the mind
Sometimes, we want to balance our minds.
An unstable mental state often makes us uneasy. Examples are unstoppable negative emotions, uncontrollable desires toward social success, fear of change, and boredom.
A stable mind would be one form of happiness if we are mentally confused. We are happy to be able to make decisions based on our values, especially if we have unique individuality.
In other words, we don’t want to kill our wants. It is the same act as killing our minds.
That is why we want to balance our minds.
However, we sometimes don’t know such a mental state.
Today, I will introduce how my feelings changed after finding balance in my mind. This might help you understand your honest wants and improve your life.
Switching from empathic to logical
Empathy gives us a colorful life. On the other hand, logic gives us a calm one.
It means that we are making things too vivid if we have intense empathy.
For example, in my case, I thought I had to savor the last bite of the delicious meal. If I suppose it is the last chance to taste it, I can enjoy it by amplifying my emotions multiple times. I was able to feel deep gratitude and enjoyment.
However, I realized that it also stressed me. I felt that everything had an end. That made me feel loneliness and meaninglessness.
The feeling of logical life
Enjoying a logical life freed me from such stress. It told me there are a lot of delicious meals in the world. If I finished one dish, I could taste another one. I don’t have to amplify my enjoyment multiple times.
Although we might want to intensify only pleasure and suppress negative emotions, we cannot do it. We cannot distinguish emotions to change the level of amplification.
That is because physical stresses cause emotions. Joy and sorrow are the same stress from the body’s perspective. We are deciding to either tense or relax our bodies.
In my case, I had always chosen to keep my body stimulated, despite my mental exhaustion. Empathy heated me up.
Too colorful lives that stress us
In other words, we are living too colorful lives. Confusion makes our lives that way. Although it is one lifestyle, forcing our bodies to energize will exhaust us.
Conscious rational judgment relieves stress.
In my case, I have come to think this way: “I have been trying to enjoy every moment to the fullest for decades. If that way of enjoyment doesn’t satisfy me, it can be better to let go of it.”
I have started looking at the broader world rather than just maximizing the value right before me. There is so much enjoyment in the world. There is no need to force myself to taste it. In other words, we can choose what to taste.
It was the rational way of judging. It freed me.
The meaning of seeking meanings
One big change that logical life brought me was that I no longer seek meaning.
I realized that my wish for meaning was to motivate one aspect of my values. I wanted social success, including maintaining a good relationship with someone. However, I already had lost my energy for it. If I have a strong meaning, it motivates me. That is why I wanted meaning.
When I noticed it, I was shocked because it meant I didn’t want to do it.
We usually believe that activities seeking meaning are valuable. However, I noticed it was wrong. In my honest heart, I didn’t want to engage in such activities at all.
What I wanted was the opposite. I wished for rest rather than to be active. I wanted to relax rather than have the meaning of my life.
This realization made me stop all activities that sought meaning. Instead of them, I started focusing on something curious that doesn’t require meaning.
Why we have boredom
Perhaps boredom is the same. It is a phenomenon when we cannot control our empathy.
In such a state, we have something stressful in our hearts. However, we ignore that emotion. Our empathy amplifies the gloom.
That makes us want to distract from the mental discomfort. If we have stimulation, we can wipe out such mental stress.
That might be the cause of boredom.
We don’t have such melancholy when we are in a logical state. Boredom is one of the emotions. We can accept it and decide how to deal with it. Our minds are at ease, even if there is nothing to do. We can wait or do other things calmly.
About making money
If we want to make money, it would be better to focus on logical activities rather than empathic ones.
This is because the economy is fundamentally less empathic activity, as I explained in an earlier article (this article). It usually runs on efficiency and rationality.
It might be a way to switch the main activity to the logical side. Although it is difficult to predict how it will be monetized, it has the potential to become a high-quality source of income.
Conclusion
They are about how my feelings changed after finding balance in my mind.
Although I am still trying to find where to balance, a logical life is fun. Rationality makes me calm.
I realized that what I wanted was not success. It was relaxation based on rationality.
These experiences might help you to understand your honest wants and improve your life.
Thank you for reading this article. I hope to see you in the next one.
