Now, I am temporarily away from the Internet connection. This is a scheduled post written several days ago. I am going to move to the new home on December 6th. I may be packing my stuff now.
Today, I will introduce an effective way to use our desires for ourselves.
How to use our desires for ourselves
Sometimes, we want to know how to use something that seems worthless or harmful. We can get those things inexpensively. If we can find those values, we can get more abundance. Perhaps that is the essence of creativity.
One thing we are not good at would be accepting our desires for ourselves. We are sometimes not good at caring for ourselves.
Perhaps this is because empathic people tend to prefer humility to greed. Empathy makes us feel others’ emotions and want them to be happy. Desire for ourselves is the opposite. It might seem selfish. That would be why empathic people like us favor caring for others, being selfless, and keeping distant from our desires for ourselves.
However, our desires for ourselves also make people happy if we can use them efficiently.
Today, I will talk about how to use it. This knowledge might allow us to fulfill ourselves while finding a place to contribute to others.
The effective ways to use selflessness and desires
The effective way for empathic and creative people to use them is simple, as follows:
- Selflessness is to stabilize the environment
- Desires for ourselves are to change the environment
We were not always born and raised in the best environment. In addition, we don’t always know the best place from the beginning. We need to learn the outside world and think about our opportunities.
Such desires emerge as our desires for ourselves within us. We want to change something. If we have individuality, we often want to learn the unknown, outside world.
In other words, from a wide perspective, our desires for ourselves are also a part of our contribution to humans. Although social people might praise selflessness and serving that society, there are places where other humans live outside of that society.
We can try those unknown worlds. That shows us our opportunities. Perhaps that is why adolescents and people with individuality are often interested in the outside world. They want to experience another world.
Unknown places with opportunities
In such a case, an unknown, unimaginable world tends to have opportunities. Unknown means a place where we can learn new ideas. Sometimes, we cannot anticipate what we can do until we enter it.
Of course, we have to struggle with the unknown at the beginning. However, the more we learn about it, the more potential we will have.
Desires for ourselves help us in such a situation. When we enter a new place, we work entirely for ourselves. That is the opposite of selflessness. However, we can understand that it is a necessary process and will be the foundation for later contributions.
My case of changing my mind
In my case, I was recently forced to move to another place. At first, I was trying to leave this house for the sake of others. That hurt my mind. I felt I was meaningless in this society.
However, I changed my mind. This move is for me. I don’t have to make others in the current society happy. Of course, I want to avoid their suffering, but this move is for my happiness.
In other words, I focused on my fulfillment more than others’ happiness. That allowed me to accept changes and feel hope for the future.
Selflessness is not always a better option, especially when forced to leave one’s current environment. In such a situation, we can behave for ourselves. That would give us the energy to proceed.
Conclusion
This would be an effective way to use our desires for ourselves.
Desires for ourselves are for changing the environment. That will be the foundation for later contributions.
This knowledge might allow us to fulfill ourselves while finding a place to contribute to others.
Thank you for reading this article. I hope to see you in the next one.
