Now I am thinking about how to live based on relaxation. Since I have lived as energetically as possible for a long time, I am now curious about the other way of life. There should be another form of enjoyment.
That made me try a new living style: a way of life like a consultant. Let’s talk about it.
Is there another way of life?
Sometimes, we want to try another way of life, especially when we reach a deadlock in our current situation. It gives us a new perspective and breakthroughs.
I have that issue as well. I have pursued a meaningful life as much as possible, which has fulfilled me emotionally. Making someone happy pleased me greatly. That satisfied one aspect of my values, even if I don’t have enough rest and reward.
However, I have reached my limits in that way of life. It caused various fatal matters. It exhausted me, damaged my liver, brought me financial worries in the future, and made me lose curiosity. In other words, I felt stuck in life.
That is why I wanted to try another style of living.
By chance, I recently came across a way of life based on rationality and relaxation. It broke through my stagnation and improved my life. It fascinated me.
That made me try a new style: a way of life like a consultant. Let’s introduce it.
Two styles of life
Now I am trying to live a life in which I take things as they come. In other words, I minimize my own will while I keep relaxing.
There are two styles of living, as follows:
- A life based on excitement: We behave like a leader. We have a strong, specific will and carry it out without limitation. As long as our goals align with reality and social demands, it fulfills us. However, if not, it exhausts us.
- A life based on relaxation: We behave like a consultant. We go with the flow without specific will. We follow the requests of those around us while remaining relaxed. Although we cannot be excited, we can perceive reality correctly, be peaceful, and maintain a broad curiosity.
Now I am trying the latter—a life with relaxation.
A way of life like a consultant
This relaxed way of life gives us a way of life like a consultant. When we let go of our will and calm down, those around us will start to seek advice from us.
To understand it more easily, let’s look at my case.
Now I live with my parents. Since I have a naturally weak liver, I can live peacefully with the pretext of recuperation.
My parents are keeping busy and enjoying their lives. They are sociable, so they interact with many people. I help a little with the housework.
Since I am showing those around me that I am in a comfortable state, my parents can casually ask me for simple help. Naturally, I can engage in areas of my environment that are most in need. It means that I can contribute the most.
In my case, my parents lacked someone to do the household chores. They wanted to focus on their social activities. They were happy that I could help them. That makes me pleased.
I don’t get exhausted. This is because I can limit my amount of activity. Stress harms my liver and health, so I have to care for it. My health is currently more important than the expectations of those around me.
Since I live a relaxed life, I do whatever I can physically do and refuse what I cannot. I don’t have preferences. That made my parents feel at ease and allowed them to consult me more lightly.
Why they come to consult us
I realized that this is the style of the person being consulted.
People seek opinions from those who are rational and relaxed. In other words, we don’t seek advice from busier or more irrational people than us.
It means that it would be one way to use our logical sense efficiently. The more rational we are, the more our surroundings want to consult us. In addition, the more we are empathic, the more we can satisfy their emotions.
That is the relaxed style for logical people.
That gave me a way of life that suits both the environment and myself.
People consult us about the most troublesome problem that we seem to be able to handle. Since we do it as a part of relaxing, we don’t have to get too obsessed with the problem. We can help them as long as we can.
It is rewarding because it is a big problem for them. In addition, we can do it lightly because we have no obligation to solve it. Then, their pleasure fulfills us. It is low risk with high rewards.
In my case, as my parents asked for my help, I learned about various problems in this environment. That was fun because I could consider efficiency and improve their lives. The rest is a matter of scale.
It is like a traveler goes with the flow without a specific goal. This is the new style I am currently adopting.
Conclusion
That is my new style of living: going with the flow without my specific will.
This relaxed way of life gave me a way of life like a consultant.
This style might give you another way of life.
Thank you for reading this article. I hope to see you in the next one.
