After I started to live rationally, many of my life’s problems suddenly cleared up. It was surprising. One of them is a thirst for love. Today, let’s talk about it.
How to satisfy the thirst for love
Sometimes, we want the feeling of being loved by others. We are thirsty for it, especially if we don’t remember being loved in childhood.
It feels like something is lacking in our hearts. We might not love others. We might not accept ourselves. We know something is wrong inside us, but we cannot figure out what it is.
That makes us crave love.
I also sometimes felt like that in the past. In my case, it often came with loneliness.
However, after I started to live a rational life a month ago, I finally understood what I truly wanted. We can fulfill the craving for love through rationality. Today, I will explain the mental logic.
What we truly want
Rationality can fulfill the craving for love. It may sound strange and ridiculous. They are different things. However, there is a reason. Please listen to my logic.
The reason is simple. We are misunderstanding what we want. It is as follows:
- (Incorrect) We want to be loved.
- (Correct) We want to calm down our uncontrollable emotions.
What we truly want is a stable mind, not love. In other words, love is a means. The end is a peaceful mind.
Love and emotions
Imagine a situation where we are longing for love from others. We always have uncontrollable emotions, such as fear, anxiety, sadness, and loneliness.
We seek love because we cannot oppose it.
Love is one of the symbols that calms our emotions down. When we feel it, we feel safe.
For example, remember our childhood. When we were around 3 or 4 years old, we often cried when we got hurt, such as when we stumbled and fell.
It should not have been due to physical pain. It was a stress that rose from within ourselves.
Stress is different from pain. It gradually comes out from our chest and stiffens our bodies. Of course, we don’t know what it is at that age. It is as if something else is inside our bodies, like a devil. We cannot control it. We feel that it is trying to dominate us.
Such a mysterious feeling frightens us. That should have been why we cried. In other words, stress made us cry.
The cause of our lack of power to control our emotions
Usually, we can resolve that stress by crying. Crying and laughing are physical reactions to relieve stress. That frees us from the stress and reassures us.
Repeating such an experience gives us the confidence to cope with stress.
However, we are sometimes not allowed to cry. Our parents might have scolded us not to cry easily.
Although it would be effective in social life, it takes away the experience of dealing with emotions.
That was the cause of our lack of power to control our emotions. We don’t know how to handle the mysterious, inner dark fog that stiffens our bodies.
In other words, if we calm them down ourselves repeatedly, we will be able to control our emotions.
That is the true nature of love. Love is a power that allows someone to control their emotions.
The meaning of love
That explains why rationality substitutes for love. Logical judgment calms empathy and stops the rise of the emotions, as I explained many times this month.
This logic tells us what love should be. For empathic and logical people, it might be as follows:
- Love is something stable. Even if we are upset, love is always calm.
- Love is something logical. It explains the reasons that we can reassure.
Usually, we might associate love with something passionate. However, it might be incorrect.
It can be something peaceful.
Conclusion
That is the mental logic of craving love.
It tells us that we can fulfill the thirst of love with rationality.
This logic might allow you to feel love and live with it.
Thank you for reading this article. I hope to see you in the next one.
