I went to the dentist yesterday, and it ended with just a simple examination. I will have dental surgery next month.
While waiting for my hospital appointment, I thought about life for those with uniqueness. Let’s talk about it.
How to live well with our individuality
Sometimes, we want comprehension in our lives. We feel that something is missing in our lives. Dissatisfaction drives us to do something different.
That can urge us to travel around the world and read all kinds of books. In other words, we have a desire to understand ourselves and the world.
However, we sometimes don’t know what is off. You may know that discovering oneself frequently ends up failing. Although they say happiness may be close by, we don’t know what it is.
That is why we want to understand ourselves and the world.
One solution is to understand the two types of our desires. Distinguishing them might enable us to satisfy ourselves strategically. Today, I will explain them.
Two types of desires for life
There are two types of desires for those with uniqueness: self-searching and world comprehension. They are as follows:
- The desire for self-searching drives us to identify activities that suit us and bring genuine satisfaction. It makes us want to go somewhere else—another community or region—to contribute to others. Empathy creates this want.
- The desire for world comprehension urges us to have a broader, historical perspective. It drives us to seek similarity in the past and the structure of the world. Logical sense creates this want. We often try to learn history and philosophy.
Those with individuality, like us, cannot live like ordinary people. It means that we need to identify a distinctive role that ordinary people don’t occupy. Although many might avoid or be unable to, we can.
Qualities that generate those desires
Self-searching is for empathic people who want to help those in need. In other words, that is a journey to discover people in need. That is why the desire drives us to go abroad. It doesn’t require logical ability. If we are lucky, we will identify people we want to help, and that will satisfy the desire. However, if we only go sightseeing without interacting with local people with problems, we will gain nothing.
On the other hand, world comprehension is for logical, creative people who want to improve something. We can learn the universal and fundamental problems and apply that knowledge as wisdom. That is why the desire drives us to go to traditional accumulations of wisdom, such as libraries and bookstores. Satisfying this desire doesn’t require luck. It is a matter of action. Learning and rational thinking fulfill us.
Empathic and logical people have both desires. It means that we need both luck and action. That is why we often struggle most to identify a place where we can thrive.
A strategy to satisfy ourselves
That distinction enables us to satisfy ourselves strategically.
One approach is to prioritize world comprehension. In other words, we rely on our logical sense. It doesn’t require luck. We can steadily fulfill one aspect of ourselves.
Our curiosity urges us to embark on a journey into an unknown world, whether near or far. We don’t need to go sightseeing on the other side of Earth. It might be nearby. The troubles and confusion of others are not our suffering. It could be an encounter that fulfills us.
Not belonging to the community with problems can be a major advantage for us. The stance of saying, ‘Shall I help you?’ will provide us with the opportunity to demonstrate our abilities.
In other words, identifying areas where we can help voluntarily becomes our asset. Logical curiosity and empathic consideration bring us those opportunities.
Conclusion
That is one approach to gain comprehension in our lives.
There are two types of desires for those with uniqueness: self-searching and world comprehension.
Distinguishing them might enable us to satisfy ourselves strategically.
Thank you for reading this article. I hope to see you in the next one.
