Recently, I have explained the mental system of expression. That told me why empathic and logical people, like us, tend to be later to show our talents and capabilities than other personalities. Let’s talk about it.
How to show our talents
Sometimes, we want to demonstrate our talents. Using uniqueness enables us to do things no one else can. It includes our way of life. It enables us to live in our own way, even if it has no precedent.
However, we sometimes don’t know how to do it. We know neither how to use our uniqueness nor its value. That makes us struggle with our lives.
One solution is to understand the challenges to overcome. I named it the three challenges for empathic and logical people. This whole picture might provide a specific direction to your life.
The three challenges for empathic and logical people
If we are empathic and logical, those differences make our lives difficult. The majority of people are less empathic and less logical. In other words, we are a minority in personality. We cannot live like others. We have to discover our way of life for ourselves.
Recently, I realized that there are three challenges before we can show our unique talents. They are as follows:
- The first challenge: the stage of competition—as a result, we incorporate empathy into our lives.
- The second challenge: the stage of being driven by intense empathy—as a result, we try to express our inner feelings.
- The final challenge: the stage of expressing oneself—as a result, we become able to think and decide rationally. That balances our lives and enables us to use our uniqueness.
By overcoming all of those stages, we are freed from an inferiority complex and can live our lives while using our talents. In other words, experiencing them is natural and unavoidable for empathic and logical people. That tells us the direction we need to take according to our stages.
Let’s look at each stage in detail below.
1) The stage of competition
The first challenge we need to overcome is the stage of competition. Through this process, we incorporate empathy into our lives.
In the early stages of life, we don’t know enough about the world. This leads us to adopt the lifestyle of those around us.
If our surroundings are empathic and logical, we can demonstrate our talents from this stage. We have neither an inferiority complex nor a struggle with life.
However, if not, we have no choice but to be competitive. We are often born in places with only people who are less empathic and unreasonable.
That is why we naturally became competitive from around the age of 10. We must have tried our best in all activities, such as studying, exams, and club activities.
That naturally causes us an inferiority complex. We sometimes succeeded and sometimes failed. Either way, we were not satisfied with the results.
That stimulates our empathy. Competition divides winners and losers. We cannot help but be emotional, whether we succeed or fail. We tend to feel we are the weakest due to the stress from competition.
Eventually, we give up being competitive. In other words, it is a necessary process for our lives. Although we tend to feel it is a failure in social life, it is a correct way from the perspective of the whole process.
2) The stage of being driven by intense empathy
That leads us to the second stage: the stage of being driven by intense empathy. Through this process, we come to want to express our inner feelings.
Strong empathy without restriction troubles us emotionally. Examples are bipolar disorder, depressive disorder, schizophrenia, anxiety disorder, loss of personal boundaries, obsessive-compulsive disorder, and addictive disorder.
That often drives us to be spiritual. We try to focus on and learn mental fulfillment.
If we fortunately encounter a logical spirituality that promotes the development of our rational thinking, we can gain the ability to manage our intense empathy.
However, if not, we have to resolve the confusion and contradictory emotions within ourselves on our own. Since the majority of spirituality teachings are unreasonable, we need to rely on ourselves.
When we start to rely on ourselves, we come to desire to express ourselves. In other words, we need to give up believing in authorities. We go against society’s values. Although we tend to feel we are social failures, it is correct from the perspective of the whole process.
3) The stage of expressing oneself
That leads us to the final stage: the stage of expressing oneself. Through this process, we finally become able to think and decide rationally. That enables us to use our unique individuality and circumstances.
Expressing ourselves, a process of simplifying our circumstances, allows us to recognize our emotions logically. That develops our logical sense and calms our intense emotions. I will omit this mechanism since I explained it many times recently. If you want to learn it, please refer to the category: Mental system of expressing oneself.
If we have learned that expressing ourselves is not the goal but a means to be logical, we can let go of our attachment to it. We can graduate from it as we lose motivation.
However, we often misunderstand that we have to continue to express ourselves. It is exciting and often a source of our income. That makes us struggle with losing motivation.
When we give up sticking to expression, we finally become able to live rationally. Although we tend to feel that giving up expressive activities is a failure, it is correct from the perspective of the whole process.
The final state
Finally, overcoming those three challenges enables us to live rationally. It allows us to show our unique individuality and circumstances. It is the starting point of our lives.
Although it might take time, that ability will propel us forward.
Don’t worry. Even if it looks like a failure, it is the correct path if we view it from the whole perspective. You don’t have to be afraid of giving up.
Conclusion
That is why empathic and logical people tend to be late bloomers.
There are three challenges for empathic and logical people to overcome in life.
This whole picture might provide a specific direction for your life according to your state.
Thank you for reading this article. I hope to see you in the next one.
