Last month, I started to live with my parents at their house. Since more than a month has passed, let’s talk about my current impressions.
Emptying my mind: what I wanted the most
Living with others is not bad! Although I mentioned it in an earlier article, I can live and relax.
The most comfortable state for me was emptying my mind. For example, I liked seeing the sea and walking along the seaside while listening to the sound of the waves. It put my mind at peace.
However, I didn’t know many ways to calm myself down and empty my mind. That made me crave for relaxation.
At first, all I could do was sharpen my senses at all times. That eliminated unwanted thoughts, such as self-blaming, regrets, and anxieties for the future. That was one of the reasons I liked creation. It saved my heart.
However, it was exhausting. Concentration requires mental power. Once I relaxed and lost focus, flashbacks and worries immediately struck me. I could not escape from them.
Then, I started to love walking, cycling, and seeing the sea. Although I didn’t know why I liked them at that time, I now understand that they were all activities that allowed me to empty my mind.
The nature of rationality
Unexpectedly, rationality provided me with relaxation that was greater than any of those.
Since I started to judge logically, I have been able to stop worrying. To be precise, I understand I don’t need to concentrate on each problem to relax. I didn’t need to solve it. That awareness allowed me to stop thinking of questions that have no answer.
That improved my mental state. Although I still love my old hobbies, their importance has diminished.
Rationality eliminates attachments. This is because we can choose a more efficient way in every situation.
For example, I don’t have my bicycle now. Until I completely finish moving next month, I cannot enjoy cycling. Logically speaking, there is no point in lamenting what I don’t have. Rather than that, it is efficient to improve other small things.
The same goes for comparing myself with others. It is meaningless to feel happy or disappointed compared to others. It includes being grateful by knowing weak people.
Rationally speaking, lacking something fundamental in life doesn’t mean unhappiness. Lack of money, having diseases, and living in war zones are not necessarily unfortunate. We never know how the future unfolds. There are so many factors that influence reality.
Although I never insist that the current pain will certainly turn into happiness, I also never say that our current beliefs and future predictions are perfectly correct.
That philosophy allowed me to stop judging things superficially and leave chaos as it is. That improved my life in harmony with reality.
Conclusion
Above are my impressions after living with my parents for a month.
Fortunately, I can spend many hours with an empty mind. That reduced my stress and gave me room to improve my life concretely.
Now I am trying many things with a peaceful mind. Since I want various opportunities now, it would be more effective than pushing myself.
Thank you for reading this article. I hope to see you in the next one.
