In the previous article (this article), I mentioned that I have started to learn sewing from my parents. I don’t have much interest, and that is why I can enjoy it. Such calm activities bring us unexpected, efficient development in the future.
Let’s add a little more explanation.
How to be more realistic
Sometimes, we want an effective method that is realistic. Even if we rush toward the goal with just our energy, there are limits. We run out of our passion and experience setbacks.
In such a case, relaxation-based activities could bring us breakthroughs. They are activities that align with reality, help us relieve stress, and show us new opportunities.
Today, I will introduce an example based on my experience. This explanation might help you reduce your stress and increase your hope.
Two types of activities
There are two types of activities, as follows:
- In enthusiasm-based activities, we set goals and methods as specific as possible and rush straight toward them. We try to spend as much time on them as possible.
- In relaxation-based activities, we aim to relax effectively with as few goals and methods as possible. We try to spend time on them as moderately as possible.
They tell us that if you are never satisfied, no matter how much you achieve, try the latter—relaxation-based activities. That will provide you with new opportunities.
Why sewing intrigued me
To explain the difference, let’s look at my recent experience.
Several months ago, I decided to do something I had never tried before based on rationality. I wanted to break through the stagnation.
That brought me dramatic improvements in my life. I started to live with my parents, and I encountered a new situation.
Sewing was one of the things I was unfamiliar with. Although I tried to focus on it several times in the past, I never started. However, my parents, who had already retired, were sewing and making money from it. That stimulated my interest.
In the beginning, I felt like trying to do it passionately. I guessed I must learn as much as possible about designing clothes, even though I didn’t know what I wanted to create.
My imagination urged me to do so. I felt that I had to do everything seriously. Doing my best all the time was natural for me.
However, I remembered that I am currently trying to live based on rationality and relaxation. I wanted to choose another option that I had never tried before. I could easily anticipate that such an energetic approach would only exhaust me, since I experienced it countless times.
That stopped me from being passionate. That was why I started to enjoy sewing as a relaxation-based activity.
Overturning common sense
That overturned my common sense.
I used to think that only effort and hard work produce results. However, not trying too hard can also bring unexpected outcomes, especially when we lack confidence.
It requires another essence. We do it for relaxation, limit the amount of activity to the extent that we can be at ease, don’t have commitment or passion, don’t be picky, and adopt efficient things one after another.
Strangely, it is entertaining. It is pure curiosity and a logical enjoyment.
It is like traveling in a town with a culture we know nothing about. Living in an unknown place is chaotic but interesting.
In this situation, the requirement is adaptation, not effort or passion. Rationality makes us flexible. That makes us fit into reality. On the other hand, effort and passion prevent our adaptation. They make us stick to our common sense and conventions.
In my case, I am currently adapting to the world of sewing. I eliminated my passion. That is why I can continue to learn it without motivational problems.
In other words, choose effective relaxation if you want to change your common sense. It brings us the essence we desire most, even if it requires sacrificing the superficial things we wish for.
Conclusion
That is why relaxation-based activities could bring us breakthroughs.
They are activities that align with reality, help us relieve stress, and show us new opportunities.
This logic might help you reduce your stress and increase your hope.
Thank you for reading this article. I hope to see you in the next one.
