I started to live at my parents’ house five days ago. Although the time with my parents is unproductive, I am enjoying it. It is making up for what I have been missing in my mind for a long time.
That experience taught me the essence of relaxation. Let’s talk about it.
How to relax efficiently
Sometimes, we want to relax, especially when we are exhausted.
However, we sometimes cannot do it efficiently. At all times, we can never forget to work and be productive.
To escape the stress of creating value, we might try to have another hobby and relaxation tools. However, nothing interests us, or it costs money. That makes us unable to take enough peaceful time.
That is why we want to relax efficiently.
Fortunately, I have recently come to understand the essence of relaxation. Try wasting your time logically. That would help you refresh from the heart and enjoy new aspects of life. Today, I will explain why.
The essence of relaxation
The essence of relaxation would be wasting time in a logical state.
There are two styles of spending time, as follows:
- Empathic style: We try to use our time productively. We have a goal with excitement, but it means being inflexible.
- Logical style: We try to use our time efficiently. We can respond flexibly, but we don’t have a certain goal.
If you have intense empathy and want to relax, choose the latter.
It would make you feel that you are intentionally wasting your time. However, not having a goal doesn’t mean waste.
My example
To understand it more easily, let’s look at an example.
I recently started to live with my parents, as I said at the top of this article. From the perspective of productivity, interacting with them is worthless. It creates nothing. For example, they often watch TV news at dinner and criticize crimes and evil people without taking any action. It is unproductive.
However, from the perspective of relaxation, it is the same as other relaxing activities. For example, listening to music, seeing the sea, and soaking in the bath also calm me down. All of them are worthless in terms of productivity. In other words, any of them works for me.
That made me realize I can enjoy them, even interacting with my parents. It is worthless; that is why I can relax. It frees me from the stress of pursuing goals.
I don’t have a certain goal in this state, and there is no need to set new ones. Relaxation means having no goals. I realized that I can enjoy the meaninglessness. It allows me to be imperfect.
That was why I became able to have fun with unreasonable activities, including interacting with my parents. In other words, relaxation is a state where we don’t need to make sense.
Curiosity and discovery
In this state, logical sense often gives us curiosity and discovery.
For example, I found that I have a good environment where I can sew. I learned that my parents are sewing. They were collaboratively making clothes and accessories to sell.
They introduced me to the inside of the house and told me there is a huge amount of unused fabric. These fabrics were old but expensive. They received them for free from their wide range of acquaintances. They had so much fabric that they were troubled by how to dispose of it.
It interested me. I remembered that I liked to make women dress as men. Sewing seems interesting too. Unexpectedly, I became aware of my interests and acquired that environment.
For another example, I got an opportunity to sell my work. I learned that my parents have various connections. They have retired now, have enough time on their hands, and are participating in various community activities. They often participate in many markets and local events to sell handmade items.
If I accompany them, I can know and experience those places. That also intrigued me.
That is why logical sense often makes us curious and leads to discovery. Although I didn’t have a goal, enjoying unreasonableness gave me new opportunities.
Conclusion
That is the essence of relaxation.
Try wasting your time logically.
That would help you refresh from the heart and enjoy new aspects of life.
Thank you for reading this article. I hope to see you in the next one.
