I fasted about a week ago, and that has improved my liver condition significantly. Although the fasting was exhausting, my physical state has gotten much better.
This experience told me many things. One example is why I was unconfident in making relationships. Let’s talk about it.
How to deal with a lack of confidence in relationships
I had a problem. That was my lack of confidence in building relationships. Whenever I tried to get close to someone, I always got sick of it and broke up. That made me think I cannot become familiar with anyone.
Some may feel the same way as I do.
However, I recently realized that a misunderstanding about loneliness caused the lack of confidence in relationships.
What we truly want when we feel lonely can be a quiet rest, not close relationships. This awareness might clear your mental complex about making associations.
Physical state and loneliness
When you feel lonely, avoid trying to build relationships. Instead, make yourself comfortable and take enough rest. This awareness cleared the feeling that I am not good at relationships.
You can understand why by focusing on the state of the body.
Let’s look at an example of my liver condition. I have a weak liver from birth.
However, I didn’t know the fact until years ago. Naturally, I had not taken care of my liver for a long time. After graduating from university and becoming independent, my liver gradually worsened because of my hard work.
Since that time, I suddenly started having problems with my relationships.
I often felt loneliness, and that made me interact with others. However, I suddenly feel stressed and end up disliking them. That made me lose my confidence, as said at the top of this article.
My handling of the loneliness was wrong. I was feeling unwell because of my liver. The deterioration of my liver caused me physical discomfort, which created negative emotions, including loneliness and anger.
In other words, what I wanted was a quiet rest, not close relationships. To be precise, I wanted aid rather than friendships and love.
When we are sick, we become averse to any activity. That was why I always ended up disliking them after my independence.
Clearing the misunderstanding
That cleared up my misunderstanding.
When you feel lonely, avoid trying to build relationships. It is not due to a lack of love. It is due to your poor physical health. Instead of focusing on relationships, make yourself comfortable and take enough rest.
If you want to make friends and lovers, do it when you feel well. It is when you don’t feel lonely. They will provide you with enough support when you get sick.
I remembered I was not bad at building and keeping relationships at all. Until my university days, I did it well and didn’t worry much about it.
I realized that when my relationships broke down, it was always when my liver deteriorated. Forcing myself to make a closer relationship exhausted me.
Instead of building intimacy, we can tell our surroundings, “I am not feeling well right now, so please leave me alone. Let me rest for a while. If possible, please help me a little when my condition gets worse.”
It was natural for me to want to be alone for a long time due to my long-term liver damage. However, now I can deal with my liver better.
This logic reassured me. I finally regained my confidence. Although I don’t know what to do in the future, I might gradually add some activities that can be interacted with directly.
Conclusion
That was how I overcame the feeling that I am not good at relationships.
What we truly want when we feel lonely can be a quiet rest, not close relationships. You can understand why by focusing on the state of the body.
This awareness might clear your mental complex about making associations.
Thank you for reading this article. I hope to see you in the next one.
