Since last year, I have started to live rationally, and I have had one concept of my new lifestyle: living a second childhood. It filled my latent desires. Let’s discuss it.
What is wrong with our minds?
Sometimes, we want to clarify what is wrong with our minds, especially when we have mental confusion and an inferiority complex.
There are many factors that bother us, such as emotions, events, desires, environment, personality, and past. Although they all seem abnormal, we don’t know which one is the fundamental problem. That keeps us temporary, superficial, and chasing instant solutions.
Rationality removes such confusion. In other words, the absence of reasonable judgment causes mental confusion and an inferiority complex.
However, we sometimes cannot imagine the mental state after solving the confusion. For example, we doubt that being content means having neither desires nor dissatisfaction. In other words, despite our lives being filled with pain, negative aspects can become a part of happiness. If negative things don’t matter, what torments us?
That is why we want to clarify what is wrong with our minds.
The concept of ‘living a second childhood with rationality’ may enable you to recognize a healthy mental state. Today, I will explain it with my experience.
My fundamental desires
The concept of ‘living a second childhood with rationality’ may enable you to imagine a healthy mental state without inner confusion.
To make it easier to understand, let’s look at my experience over the past year.
After I started living rationally, there was one thing I allowed myself: to live a second childhood. Rationality told me that the time had finally come to fulfill my fundamental part that had always felt incomplete.
In my case, my fundamental desire was simple: to live honestly with myself. The word ‘childhood’ means the period when we were able to be genuine with ourselves but were just starting to develop social skills—often the years around ages 8 to 10.
My desires at that time were simple:
- I wanted to grow more.
- I wished to help the community that interacts with me and make them happy.
Identifying complex desires
It showed me that becoming famous all over the world was not my fundamental desire. I just wanted to make my parents happy. It was a local, small matter. It was unreasonable to aim for large-scale social success to satisfy my little personal relationship, although I could not verbalize those feelings until recently.
That feeling made me decide to live with my parents last year. Although living with one’s parents as an adult may seem inferior, it was an opportunity to satisfy myself.
I started to express my desires directly, whether giving or receiving. In giving, I began helping my parents. Since I didn’t have anything in particular that I wanted to express strongly, I could do it honestly. In receiving, I began accepting my parents’ kindness as long as there was no reason to decline. In other words, I stopped judging only emotionally.
Although my change in attitude often surprised my parents, it was only the very first time. For example, whenever I started to help with my parents’ housework, they laughed. I felt a bit embarrassed emotionally, but I decided it on rational judgment. From the second time onward, they accepted my help without laughing.
I realized that the awkwardness is only at the beginning. It is unreasonable to avoid fulfilling activities just because we will feel embarrassed once emotionally. That realization relieved me and accelerated my change.
Interestingly, it naturally went well. The long-strained relationship has become smooth. Solving complexity is not complicated but simple.
Living my childhood again
I realized that I was reliving my childhood again. Global success, fame, wealth, and even a frugal life didn’t matter to me. I just wanted to live honestly in a small community. Fortunately, I was able to do it while my parents were still alive—I fulfilled that desire directly.
Even if your parents are no longer alive, you can still realize it. It could be someone else. It doesn’t necessarily mean they need to be related by blood.
As I became fulfilled fundamentally, I started to understand the healthy mental state.
Although my life has problems in every aspect, they all belong within acceptable limits. I honestly acknowledge when something is beyond my ability. Negative things don’t matter; I also have various unsatisfied areas to improve. However, I am fulfilled.
Conclusion
That is the concept of ‘living a second childhood with rationality.’
In my case, I just wanted to live honestly in a small community. Global success, fame, wealth, and even a frugal life didn’t matter.
This perspective may enable you to recognize a healthy mental state.
Thank you for reading this article. I hope to see you in the next one.
